As a single woman who has been through quite a few failed relationships, I feel like there are quite a lot of things I’ve learned now that I wish someone would have told me when I first started dating.
Back in June, I shared a post with you all where I explained that I was going through a break up. Since then I have been in and out of the dating scene and it just made me realise a few things that I felt like I should share.
Ask yourself: Do you even like them?
Whenever I found myself in the ‘talking stage’, I feel myself starting to worry about if they like me or not. However, what I should be doing is thinking about whether or not I like them. If they end up liking me then great, but I need to decide in my own mind how I feel about them.
Rejection isn’t personal
Dating tends to come with rejection. It’s hard but it’s just a part of it. Although being rejected can feel a bit rubbish, liking someone or being liked ultimately comes down to compatibility. So, try not to take the rejection as an insult, see it as one less person between you and your ideal partner. So, stop choosing what isn’t choosing you.
Know what you want
When heading into the dating scene, know what you’re looking for. Knowing what you want, will help you to set boundaries for yourself. Ask yourself what you are not willing to compromise on and what isn’t so much of a big deal to you. Once you know your needs, communicate them. Don’t keep your own wants and needs to yourself, be clear when talking to people.
Don’t lose yourself in someone else
Don’t become so consumed by the idea of a relationship that you lose who you are. Keep up with your own interests and hobbies. remember to always take some time out for yourself. Look after yourself and remember who you are.
Your dating life isn’t everything
Your love life is only one area of your life. When it comes down to it, if your dating life is negatively impacting other areas of your life, then you might need to take a step back and re-think things. Your wellbeing is the most important thing and your world isn’t going to end because you’re single. Look after all areas of your life.
What’s something that you wish someone told you about dating? Do you have any dating advice that we should all know?
Positively Eleanor 