Does decluttering make you feel guilty? If it does, then you’re definitely not alone.
We live in a world where society values stuff and tells us that more is better. We feel pressured to buy all the latest trends and invest in all the life-changing products. We are taught to belive that the more we buy, that happier we will be. But that’s not true at all.
The reality of it is that having too much stuff can feel chaotic and overwhelming. It can lead us to feel anxious and lonely too.
So if society wants us to keep buying things and we are feeling guilty about the idea of decluttering, then how are we supposed to get out of this clutter cycle?
That’s where I can help.
You home is meant to be comfortable and welcoming. If your stuff doesn’t make you feel positive then we need to fight that guilt and get rid.
Christmas is such a beautiful time of year. Christmas lights, time with family and friends, lovely wrapped gifts, Christmas movies and the perfect excuse to drink hot chocolate every day.
The holidays can be so joyful, but they can also be a time of stress, anxiety and worry. That’s why to fully embrace Christmas, I’ve decided to let go of certain pressures to make the season fully enjoyable.
Please don’t get into debt trying to buy someone the perfect Christmas gift or planning the best day ever. We’ve all heard the saying “it’s the thought that counts” and it really is true. Instead of breaking the bank trying to buy a fancy gift, spend a bit of time thinking about the person and gift them something meaningful instead. Something that I do with my best friend is set a price limit for gifts. We decide on a price that we can both afford and get a gift within that budget. It works well as there’s no pressure to try to spend more.
2. Pressuring yourself to make everything from scratch
We don’t have time to make everything. This is a season of joy and quality time with our loved ones. It’s not a time to be in a panic about trying to make everything yourself. We seem to put pressure on ourselves to make everything perfect and homemade, but really, there’s no need. Buying cookies instead of baking them is okay. Buying a gift instead of making something is okay. Buying decorations instead of crafting them is okay. Just give yourself a break.
3. Trying to cram everything into your calendar
Christmas is a time of events, meetups, and long to-do lists. But there are only so many hours in the day. With all the local Christmas events being advertised, it can be easy to fill out calendars to the point that we have no time to actually relax. We want to do everything and we burn ourselves out by trying to do so. Instead of filling your calendar, try slowing down and just enjoying the moment. Going to Christmas events is fun but it’s okay to say no if you want to.
4. People pleasing
This doesn’t just apply during the holidays, but it’s definitely worth the reminder this time of year. Whether it’s with family, friends, or anyone. We feel the need to make sure everyone is happy and we put ourselves in uncomfortable positions to please people. Well, stop that. Ask yourself what you want and go for that. You don’t exist to try and make everyone else happy.
5. Stressing yourself out and forgetting to enjoy the moment
As long as you’re surrounded by loved ones and everyone is having a good time, nothing else matters. Christmas is a time for joy and fun. Let go of any pressure that you have and just embrace the Christmas excitement. Be present and merry.
What are you letting go of this holiday season? What’s your favourite thing about Christmas?
One of my favourite ways of expressing gratitude is by journaling. I try to write in my gratitude journal daily and it really helps me to feel like there’s some good in this world even though everything is more challenging these days.
Practising gratitude has such a positive impact on your health and well-being as well as making you happier in general.
What is a gratitude journal?
A gratitude journal is basically just a notebook where you write down what you’re grateful for. You can make it as simple or detailed as you like. It’s completely personal to you.
One of the comments that I often get on my decluttering posts is “throwing things away is a waste of money” or “how do I not feel like I’m wasting money?” and honestly, I get it.
When I first started my decluttering journey, I wanted to keep hold of anything that cost a lot of money because it felt like a waste to get rid of it. If I’d spent money on something, simply throwing it away or donating it felt like a waste.
That was until I remembered one little thing.
The money is already gone.
Whether I kept hold of that item or not, the money that I spent has already gone. It’s no longer in my bank account and it’s not coming back. Now I just have to decide if that item is worth the space and effort of keeping it.
Intentional living is all about making purposeful and deliberate choices that allow you to focus on what you want and work towards that. It means investing your resources into the things that matter to you the most.
One of the most important resources we have in this life is time.
So, here are a few ways that you can be more intentional with your time.
Decluttering has become quite the discussed topic here on my blog but something that I don’t talk about as much is decluttering your mind. In my opinion, decluttering your mind and your mental space is just as important as decluttering the physical items in your life.
One of the best ways to declutter your mind is by doing a brain dump.
What is a brain dump?
In its simplest form, a brain dump is simply taking all the thoughts from your mind and writing them down. It’s a quick way to declutter your thoughts and help you focus on what’s important.
Have you ever noticed how putting down one item on a flat surface rapidly leads to a pile of items that you don’t know how they accumulated? That’s because clutter attracts clutter.
I’ll give you an example that I noticed in my own life recently. Next to a chair in my bedroom is a little table that I use when writing or blogging. Recently I pushed the table against the wall and left a few pieces of paper and some pens on it. Over the course of two days, that table managed to collect books, water bottles, crochet hooks and so much other junk. I have no idea how it manages to happen but it does.
But what are we supposed to do to stop this? Here are a few simple steps that should help you break that clutter cycle.